Or should I say girls… when will we learn. Today is a sad day where we mourn the loss of… another boy I was potentially interested in. Eh, I feel the sadness already(LOL). Hello! my cute babes, so even though the intro was a little depressing, it was true. Alright, let me start from the beginning. In my last (relationship-related)blog post I talked about my fear of entering the dating world. I didn’t really mention HOW I was entering the dating world, so I guess I’ll explain that now. So like any young girl who wants to meet cute single guys( ew when did this turn into a gross midnight infomercial), I joined Bumble. Yes, buzz buzz Bumble I prefer Bumble more than Tinder because of 1. I can message the guy first ( and that eliminates any unwanted “sausage” pictures popping up in my inbox) and 2… I don’t want “sausage” pictures in my inbox. Anyway, I had the PERFECT idea for joining Bumble this time. Instead of doing it hoping to find love (ew) I joined for research purposes. Basically, I wanted to go on dates with guys then blog about it! Amazing right?! I had a whole new outlook on dating, I wasn’t over-thinking (as much) I was just living my best life matching with all these cute guys. But of course, me being me, I got attached and started planning my wedding. So here’s the story of me not getting my dream wedding. Sucks I know (LOL) There were 2 guys that I “clicked” with I guess you can say, the first guy was okay? he was- um let’s just move on. The second guy is more important anyway, so I kind of want to use his real name( LOL) but maybe I shouldn’t, you never know, one day he can come across this post. Mmm, his name in this post will be
Okay moving on! so brownie and I connected over the fact that we’re both virgins. We also had a lot in common! I’m talking I sometimes thought he was saying things I wanted to hear, AND we were talking for quite a while. Obviously, me… being myself I started planning our wedding and where we’re gonna go for our honeymoon. Just kidding, this time I was actually pretty chill I wasn’t thinking of our future or anything. One thing for sure was that I liked talking to him… like a lot. He was very different from many of the other guys I’ve talked too. He was kind, caring, funny, cute and tall ( lol), you guys are probably like “Tati if he was so “perfect” why aren’t you making it Facebook Offical?”. No matter how amazing a guy may appear to be, never forget your self-worth and don’t settle for anything less. No, he didn’t magically turn evil and start to disrespect me (lol) but he didn’t value my time either. Let me explain, we both felt comfortable enough with one another to meet in person (PSA: NEVER MEET SOMEONE FROM ONLINE IN PERSON WITHOUT TALKING TO THEM FOR A LITTLE AND DON’T FORGET TO SHARE YOUR LOCATION WITH SOMEONE CLOSE TO YOU… thank you). We tried to schedule a hangout but it didn’t work out, we were both busy and it just didn’t happen. So we tried to hang out on Father’s Day… weird I know but he canceled on me the morning of. I was a little bummed not gonna lie but I needed to get over it because he was spending time with his family. Trying to schedule a time to see each other was difficult because we lived far from each other( he’s from Irvine and I’m from Riverside area). However, I noticed whenever we would FINALLY find a good time to meet he would cancel… like the day of. I can’t be the only one that gets bothered by this, it’s annoying and slightly rude. Anyway, I started thinking he was a catfish because ALL the signs ( there was only 1 sign lol) pointed to that. Me being… well me I asked him if he was a catfish because I’m not trying to end up on the TV show “Catfish” crying because the ” love of my life” wasn’t a real person. His answer was funny I will give him that, he said he’s allergic to catfish (so clever right?! lol). I know I know, you little babes are like Tati what is the point of this post. You guys need to know that I would never tell you guys a story without having a purpose… eh maybe. I needed to give you guys back story of my horrible dating life before I get to the point (duh). So because I liked talking to him I ignored all the signs of him A. probably being a catfish (okay tati lol) or B. him just not being interested in me. Some people may be okay with the guy that they’re interested in not responding back to them for hours or even days… but I’m not. If we’re trying to get to know each other I expect you to text me back if I text you or just call me (sooo aggressive I know). When it comes to dating or “talking” I don’t like not knowing if the person I’m talking to is interested in me or not (that’s my biggest pet peeve when it comes to dating). Instead of you know being a smart independent woman and stop talking to this guy. I continued to talk to him… even though he canceled on me for the 3rd time.
One thing you guys should know about me is that once you annoy me… I’m done with you. Okay that was a bit dramatic (when am I not though? lol) I don’t do that to EVERYONE because hello my siblings are annoying, my dog Sophie is annoying I can’t be done with them (LOL). After being canceled on and him not talking to me for DAYS, I asked him why is he talking to me?. His answer- more like an excuse was that “he’s not good with the whole dating thing” and he takes things really slow. So here’s the thing, Yay! we’ve reached the “lesson” part of the blog. I don’t have a ton of experience when it comes to dating, I mentioned this in my last blog, but I do know how to show someone I’m interested in them. I personally don’t think dating/ getting to know someone is complicated, I think people make it complicated for no reason AT ALL. What I noticed about the dating culture now is that almost everyone wants to have one foot in the relationship and another foot out in these streets. I’m not like that I have both feet in the relationship because I date with a purpose not just to kill time. Ladies… and Gentlemen don’t settle for someone who doesn’t have the same vision as you when it comes to relationships. In the beginning, if you say you’re dating with a purpose (you want to be married in the future or just want to be in a serious long term relationship) and they “have the same vision” but their actions don’t show it… believe their actions. I tend to ignore their actions because I make excuses for guys like “aww maybe he’s busy” “maybe he’s at work” “maybe his cat ran away”
This is a long post I’m sorry but I have MAJOR thoughts when it comes to dating. Was I bummed that this guy didn’t turn out to be the one? Well yea, but I needed to remember who the heck I am and that if God really wanted me to be with this person he would make it happen. Whenever I start talking to a new guy I also pray about it in the beginning. I pray to God if this guy isn’t who he has for me then remove him from my life, intense I know (LOL) but this helps me not be a total emotional wreck when a guy stops talking to me. Of course, I will be sad for a little bit but then I realize God has something better for me and that helps me not be sad. Alright, I’ve talked enough so that’s the post for today If you babes have any questions or comments for me pop them down in the comments below and I will answer them! I really hope you babes enjoyed this very lengthy post TTYL babes byeeeee<3
